I read such a passage: “Mood is not the whole of life, but it can control the whole of life.
In a good mood, everything is good, in a bad mood, everything is in chaos.
Often, instead of losing to others, we lose to ourselves because our bad mood degrades our image, reduces our ability, and disturbs our thinking.
Control bad mood and life will be peaceful everywhere.
A good state of mind shapes a good mood, and a good mood shapes the best of you. “
The mentality is the foundation for a person to settle down and live. What kind of mentality you have is what kind of life you have.
1. Mentality is the root of emotions
In life, many people are angry because of a little thing, and they attribute it to a bad temper.
Is this really the case? Not necessarily.
Everyone has a temper, some people can control it, while others do whatever they want.
After all, it is your lack of self-cultivation and bad mentality.
I saw the news on the Internet.
A couple quarreled over a trifle in the high-speed service area.
The wife, who couldn’t control her emotions, burst into tears and got on the bus. She planned to drive away.
his move angered her husband even more. He jumped onto the hood in front of the car and stopped the car.
Fortunately, as soon as the woman started the vehicle, this scene was seen by the high-speed law enforcement officers and dissuaded in time, so that the car was not allowed to drive at high speed. Otherwise, the consequences are unimaginable.
Later, after the couple reconciled, they thanked the traffic police and said, “They often quarrel and get into the habit of hating each other.” After calming down this time, I also felt very scared.
If the mentality is not good, the emotions will prevail, and the double quotient will drop to the lowest point, which will make the situation develop in a bad direction.
Mentality determines normality and peace of mind, so emotions are naturally switched to silent mode.
I heard a short story.
Before the master went away, he handed over his beloved orchids to his disciples.
The apprentice is also very conscientious and responsible, and regularly waters orchids every day.
But unexpectedly, one day he went out on something, and suddenly it rained heavily and knocked over the orchid on the window sill.
Apprentice is very anxious and wronged, and always worried about being reprimanded by Master.
A few days later, when Master came back, he took the initiative to talk about orchids. Instead of being excited, Master smiled faintly and said, “I didn’t raise orchids to be angry.”
Apprentice admired it very much. A pot of orchids reflected Master’s atmosphere.
99% of the things in life have nothing to do with themselves, and they care too much. So smart people live only 1%, and will never be disturbed by the outside world, let alone hurt my emotions.
2, mentality, determine the fate
The Book of Changes wrote: “A gentleman is not afraid of independence, and he is not bored.”
It means that a gentleman can keep his inner balance even if he is faced with difficulties and is not recognized by others.
Han Xin teenagers learn martial arts. One day, when he was walking in the street with his sword, he was provoked by a local butcher.
The butcher scolded him for pretending his sword and asked him to stab himself, or he would cross under him.
Han Xin didn’t want to get into trouble, so he went under him.
Others thought it was a great shame, but he was able to shrug off and his mood was not affected at all.
If a person develops the normal state of not panicking when something happens, he can make a correct judgment no matter what: he really can’t beat the butcher, so it’s better to endure and not suffer immediate losses.
Later, Han Xin defected to Liu Bang, made immortal feats for the Great Han Dynasty, and was crowned king.
Once again, he invited the butcher who had provoked him and gave him an official title. The butcher was grateful, fought on the battlefield, and was brave and loyal.
With a good attitude, people have an inclusive mind and a big pattern. They can not only have a broad mind but also turn bad things into good things and enemies into friends.
If you have a good attitude, you will win, thus your life will become more spacious and your bad luck will become more and more distant. If you are in a bad state of mind, you may lose everything. Life is always difficult for you, and you are subject to others everywhere.
Have seen “happiness knocks on the door”. Chris was unkempt, his trousers covered with lime, and sat awkwardly in front of the interviewer.
Although he has performed well, the examiner who has no plans to hire him asked Chris: “If someone is dressed badly in the interview, but I hired him. What would you say?”
he replied easily and naturally: “Then his pants must be high-end.”
In a word, the whole examiner was amused and laughed, and he won the employment opportunity.
We can’t change the direction of things, but we can change our minds. When our mentality gets better, we are opening the door to luck.
3. Good mentality and everything is fine
It is said that life is not easy, but have you ever thought that if you have a good attitude, you will live contentedly even if it is not easy.
The ancients had verses, which were seen as peaks on the side of the ridge, with different heights.
It’s about different angles, different landscapes, different positions, and different feelings.
Similarly, the mentality is opposite, and the result is very different.
A mother-in-law has two daughters, the eldest daughter sells cloth shoes and the youngest daughter sells umbrellas. When it’s sunny, she worries that her little daughter’s umbrella won’t sell, and when it rains, she worries that her eldest daughter’s shoes won’t sell, so she scowls every day.
Later, someone told her that she wanted her eldest daughter’s shoes to be sold on sunny days and her younger daughter’s umbrellas to be sold well on rainy days, so she laughed all day.
The fact is there, whether it is pessimistic or optimistic depends on what kind of mentality you have. It can be described as a heart for heaven, thinking of hell.
Su Shi’s life was very rough, he was imprisoned once, demoted many times, and his wife died and his father died.
Arguably, if one’s career is not smooth and one’s life is embarrassed, one will surely kill one’s will and make one feel upset.
But Su Shi is different.
Not only is there no depression, but he also turns his disappointments into enthusiasm, eats wherever he goes, and lives to steam. The famous “Dongpo Meat” is the testimony of Su Shi’s good mentality.
When Su Shi was demoted to Xuzhou, it coincided with the breach of the Yellow River, so he led the whole city officials to fight floods, not only defeated floods but also built Su Causeway the following year.
People killed pigs and slaughtered sheep one after another, and brought wine and vegetables to the state to thank Su Shi. Su Shi couldn’t refuse, and personally cooked the meat and then gave it back to the people.
He also specially wrote poems to introduce, “Slow fire, less water, and it is self-beautiful when the temperature is enough.”
Everything is open-minded, you can see it lightly, and you can keep a normal heart. Even if you suffer endlessly, your heart is still open-minded, so you can turn your hands into clouds and cover your hands with rain.
In the end, a good attitude made Su Shi’s generation of literary writers magnanimous all his life.
